The feeling of resentment towards others often reflects issues within ourselves. It can stem from unmet expectations, desires, or perceived injustices. When we see traits in others that we dislike, it may be because they remind us of aspects of ourselves that we're not comfortable with or proud of. This is sometimes referred to as the "shadow self" in psychology, which encompasses the parts of our personality we deny or dislike¹.
Moreover, the concept of the "looking glass self" suggests that we form our self-concept based on how we think others perceive us³⁴. If we believe others see us negatively, we may project those feelings onto them, resulting in resentment.
Resentment can also arise from comparisons and a sense of unfairness, where we feel we're not receiving what we deserve, especially if we perceive others as getting what we want¹².
It's important to recognize that everyone has unique strengths and life experiences, and focusing on personal growth rather than comparison can help mitigate these feelings⁵.
Understanding the root of our resentment can lead to personal insight and growth, helping us to address the underlying issues and move towards a more positive outlook.
Abraham-Hicks:
Now begin making lists of things that you feel good about. Fill your notebooks full of them. Make lists of positive aspects. Make lists of things you love. Go the restaurant and look for your favorite thing, and never complain about anything. Look for the thing you like the best even if there is only one thing. Give it your full attention, and use it as your excuse to be who you truly are. As you look for those things that make you shine bright, and make you feel good, you’ll tune to who you are, and the whole world will begin to transform before your eyes.
This practice of writing daily positive aspects, will help us all to softly move away from re-sentment
(visiting over and over the feeling of unworthiness) and being in alignment with the emotions of appreciation. Appreciation is a powerful creative tool that works!!
You are valuable and worthy.
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Source: Conversation with Bing, 3/26/2024
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(2) 2.3 Perceiving and Presenting Self – Communication in the Real World. https://open.lib.umn.edu/communication/chapter/2-3-perceiving-and-presenting-self/.
(3) 2.3 Self-Perception – Introduction to Communications. https://openeducationalberta.ca/communications/chapter/2-4-perceiving-the-self/.
(4) The Danger of Misunderstanding Resentment | Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/202206/the-danger-misunderstanding-resentment.
(5) Mentally Strong People Don't Resent Other People's Success. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201609/mentally-strong-people-dont-resent-other-peoples.